Improve your personality with Positive attitude

“WITH POSITIVE ATTITUDE, YOU BECOME A PERSON THAT BRIGHTENS THE ROOM SIMPLY BY ENTERING IT”

An attitude is defined as “The way a person feels, thinks and behaves, towards a particular issue.”

Attitude helps in particular situations within the frame of mind. For example — a glass half filled with water may be explained as “A glass is half filled” or “A glass is half empty”.  With this simple example we can understand that a person having positive attitude will always point out as “A glass is half filled”.

Positive attitude, self belief and the determination are key factors for success.

+VE Attitude —> +VE Thinking —> + VE Action / Reaction / Efforts —> +VE Result. 

With the positive attitude a person can get following advantages —

·      You become humble, polite, caring & confident.

·      Positive attitude enhances Productivity & Team work.

·      It reduces stress and develops patience.

·      It develops trust among team members.

·      It develops good character, integrity and values.

·      A person with positive attitude doesn’t see setbacks as stumbling blocks, rather he / she sees setbacks as stepping stones.

Disadvantages of behaving with negative attitude are—

·      It increases animosity.

·      It develops sickness (Ill health)

·      It increases bitterness in relationship & resentment.

·      Negative person not only spoils himself but the entire environment.

·      Negative thinkers are basically fault finders. They always see negative side of the story.

POSITIVE THINKERS ARE WINNERS WHILE NEGATIVE THINKERS ARE LOOSERS.

HOW TO DEVELOP POSITIVE ATTITUDE?

·         For developing positive attitude we should always see the plus side of any issue or matter or person instead of looking at negative side. Therefore avoid criticizing and try to praise as maximum as possible.

Example - Looking for gold-For an ounce of gold, we have to dig tons of dirt. Therefore dealing with people, is like digging for gold. When you are digging don’t look for the dirt but look for gold.

·         There is something positive in every person and situation. We are so used to looking for what is wrong with other people and situation, we forget to see what is right.”

·         While behaving try to be humble and polite and try to handle critical situations tactfully.

·         Avoid anger because we must realize that anger is powerfully weapon which should be discharged rarely.

·         Avoid procrastination. Procrastination means “Reluctance to act NOW” OR we continue avoiding work, which we don’t want to do. Rather any unpleasant work if required to do should be attended first. With this practice we become more comfortable and lighter in our state of mind. Avoid lam excuses.

       As Benjamin Franklin says - “Never leave till tomorrow, which you can do today” –

·         Try to be honest and responsible.

·         Try to be happy in all circumstances and movements because happiness gives us confidence and courage.

·         Try to use common sense as it is the ability to see things as they are and do than as ought to be done. We are born with 5 senses - Touch, Taste, Sight, Smell and Hearing. While common sense can be gained with or without education.

·         Improve your knowledge power. It gives you confidence to discuss and argue among people. Knowledge is potential power and it becomes power only when it is acted upon. There is a very little difference between person who cannot read and a person who can, but does not read.

Positive thinkers are winners who recognize their limitation, but focus on their strengths. Losers recognize their strengths, but focus on weaknesses.

Get into continuous Education Program:

       v   Learn true meaning of education

       v   Intellectual education influences the head. Value based education influence the heart. It builds fundamental traits of character i.e. Honesty, Compassion, Courage, Persistence and Responsibility.

       v   True education is training of both head and heart.

       v   Knowledge is piling of facts. Wisdom is simplifying it.

       v   People confuse education with memorizing of facts.

  Build Positive Self-Esteem:

        Buildup our self esteem to improve our performance.

       v   What is self-esteem?

       v   It is the way we feel about ourselves.

       v   When we feel good within ourselves, our performance goes up, world looks nicer.

       v   To build positive self-Esteem, do something for others who cannot repay.

             Example:    (a) Teaching self esteem to jail inmates.

                                (b) Difference between “I will try to do it” and “I will do it”

                                (c) People taking drugs, if they hit tree, it’s OK. But if they kill somebody - it’s our business to get them off the road.

       v   Try to be a giver and not taker. Taker eats well, Giver sleeps well.

Be Optimistic:

       v   Discuss about good health, happiness and prosperity to a person you meet.

       v   Think of the best, work for best and expects only the best.

       v   Forget past mistakes and work for better future.           

·         Always avoid company of negative people to stay away from negative influence. Stay with hopeful optimistic and faithful group of people.

       v   Example: Steam boat when invented first - A negative person when saw newly invented boat said that “it would not start”. When Boat got started and ploughed in to the sea, person commented “oh, but it may not stop now”.

Pessimists:

  v    Are unhappy when they have no trouble to speak of.

       v   Spend most of their life at complaint counters.

       v   Always try to turn out lights to see how dark it is.

       v   Stop sleeping in beds, when they hear more people die in bed than anywhere else.

       v   Believe that sun shines only to cast shadow.

       v   Forget their blessings and count their troubles.

 Stay away from negative influence:

       v   Teenagers learn from adult behavior.

         Peer pressure is not limited to teenagers; it is also prevalent in adults.

         Example: Eagle child growing in the nest of chicken.If you want to soar like an eagle, you have tolearn the ways of eagle.

       v   You associate with Achievers, you become one. You associate with complainers, you become one.

      v Don’t let negative people drag you down. A person’s character is not only judged by the company he keeps. But also by the company he avoids.

BE WITH ACHIEVERS TO BECOME ONE OF THEM

Learn to like things that need to be done:

       v   “If we learn to like task, the impossible becomes possible”

       v   Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible and suddenly you are doing impossible.

Start your day with a positive thinking:

·         Practice having positive thoughts and behavior daily until they become a habit. 

     Start each day in a positive way.

·         Arrange to get up with soft music and not loud alarm.

·         Do morning routine comfortably. Don’t rush up.

·         Think about positive things you expect to accomplish to day.

·         Avoid reading / hearing word’s problems or do not worry about your problems, 

     while starting the day.

·         Eat healthy breakfast.

·         Read some comics before leaving newspaper. Be sure to make your self LAUGH.

·         Say something good to children before they leave for school or you leave for office.

·         Any time during day when a negative thought, anger or sadness creeps in, 

      substitute it by a positive thought in its place.

·         Think more positively about colleagues, employees and you build stronger and 

       more productive relationship.

·         Set your self up for success.

·         Prepare for worst, expect the best.

·         There is no such thing called as failures, its only outcomes.

·         Always aim high.

·         You will master your daily activity and make it a more positive and winning life.

FACTORS WHICH HELP IN FORMING OUR “ATTITUDE”

       v    Environment around us

       v    Our family culture

       v    Our educational culture & environment in school/college.

       v    Our social culture

       v    Our state culture

       v    Our country culture

       v    Political and religious culture

       v    Entertainment facilities available and how we use them.

             (Means in a negative inhuman, barbaric (uncivilized) non-cooperative environment it is difficult to develop or change attitude as positive attitude.

Winning Edge:

       v   Winning horse in the race wins 5 to 1 or 10 to 1. He is not 5 or 10 times faster than other horses. He may win by a fraction or by a nose. But rewards are five to ten times greater.

       v   Same way, successful people are not Ten times smarter than people who fail. They might be better by a nose, but rewards are ten times greater.

       v   We don’t need to improve 1000% in any one area. We need to improve just 1% in 1000 different areas, which is a lot easier. That’s the “WINNING EDGE”

There is a saying —

I prayed for all things that I might enjoy life.

God gave me life that I might enjoy all things.

THEREFORE BE POSITIVE & ENJOY ALL THINGS

Best of luck – Ashutosh .